Every client who makes a booking with Her Confidant has a good chat with Anna before seeing me. This means I can be confident that I’ve been well-matched with the client and their needs. It also gives me a small outline of their story—why they made the booking and what they’re looking for. I try to resist forming a fixed picture of who I’m about to meet and instead stay open to the moment, but having a little insight helps me understand what I might have to offer.
This particular client identifies as Queer, Non-Binary, and post-menopause, looking to get their mojo back. They had seen a previous companion at Her Confidant and written an extensive account of their experience—which I had the privilege of reading. (Quite an accomplished writer, it turns out!) Clearly, their first experience had been transformational, and they were ready to step further out with their newfound confidence and learn even more about themselves. After putting my ego aside and reminding myself that I wasn’t here to “measure up” to any previous experience (it sounded like a hard act to follow!), I was excited to meet my new friend and see where we could go together.
I never fail to be impressed—and, frankly, turned on—by the courage of anyone who books time with me. I don’t take for granted the internal and external obstacles some people have to overcome just to pick up the phone in the first place. In this case, many of those hurdles had already been overcome, and they were excited to see what came next. It made for a fun, playful, flirty preliminary drink and chat, full of anticipation. I think we were both ready to move things into a physical space.
Not everyone loves to kiss, but I really do. I find it’s a great way to understand how someone wants to be touched and treated—how ready they are to be vulnerable, how much they want to lead or be led. There’s a lot of information in a kiss, and it’s a great way to start slowly and tune into each other. It’s a conversation. I love how kisses evolve throughout a session—you have to listen, because wants and needs can change. Needless to say, we had a very thorough and in-depth ‘conversation.’
Of course, if kissing isn’t your thing, that’s completely fine too! Everyone has different comfort levels, and I always take the time to find what works best for each person.
It was a very honest, open, and playful booking. We co-created a safe, fun, experimental space to try new things and embark on a sexy, playful journey together. We ended the night eating raspberries, talking film, and sharing podcast recommendations before our time was up.
Yesterday, I got a message from Anna—they would like to see me again. So, who knows where we’ll go this time? I’m looking forward to it.
