Finding genuine connection and companionship these days can feel like hunting for a needle in a haystack. Between endless swiping, ghosting, and breadcrumbing, many women are searching for a more reliable and satisfying alternative. One option that’s gaining popularity is hiring a male escort. Whether you’re after stimulating conversation, a romantic evening, or just some fun, knowing the ropes can make your experience smooth and enjoyable.
We know stepping out of your comfort zone and diving into something completely new can be nerve-wracking. But it doesn’t have to be. That’s why we’ve created the ultimate guide to help first-timers navigate the world of companionship with confidence and ease.
Like we always say: why swipe left if you can be treated right? Say goodbye to dating woes and hello to a whole new way of connecting.
Here is what you can expect from this comprehensive guide:
Reaching Out: How to Start the Conversation
- How to Get in Touch
- Why It’s Better to Talk Over the Phone
- Creating a Safe Haven
- Privacy and Confidentiality
Finding Mr. Right
- What Makes You Tick
- Looks Aren’t Everything
- Breaking Past Patterns
- Why We Don’t Publish Faces
- Meet & Greet Date
Choosing Your Experience
- Your Plus One: Dinner Dates, Events, Theatres
- Hugs and Cuddles: Emotional Support Without Intimacy
- Tantric and Yoni Massage: Awaken Your Sensuality
- The Boyfriend Experience: Genuine Intimacy and Connection
- The Sleepover: For Those Who Need Extra Sauce on Their Plate
- The Weekend Getaway: Indulgent Break From The Daily Grind
- The Ultimate Pleasure Week: Unparalleled Pleasure
- Couples Booking: Spice Things Up with Your Partner
Locking It In: How To Book Your Date
- Planning Ahead
- Paying Upfront
- What’s Included in the Rate
Getting Ready: Pre-Date Nerves
- Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone
- Handling the Nerves
The Big Day: What To Expect During Your Date
- The First Encounter
- Your Experience, Your Way
- Feeling at Ease
- Extending the Fun
Sharing The Love
- Sharing Your Thoughts
- Importance of Feedback
1. Reaching Out: How to Start the Conversation
How to Get in Touch
Most new clients either call or email the agency. Anna, the founder of Her Confidant and the reassuring voice on the other end of the line, prefers to chat over the phone.
Taking the first step can be a bit challenging. It’s not just about picking up the phone; it’s about stepping into a new realm of self-care that might feel a bit out of your comfort zone. But hey, we’re all about breaking those stigmas! Booking a male escort is just another tool in your self-care kit, and we aim to make the process as simple and reassuring as possible. This initial conversation is key for understanding what you’re after.
Anna has over 20 years of experience in the industry. She’s chatted with thousands of clients, each with their own unique story. Her nurturing and empathetic nature makes her the perfect person to discuss your needs with.
Take Sarah — one of our clients (not her real name though). She was incredibly nervous about making that first call. She had recently gone through a tough breakup and was feeling a bit lost and ashamed of herself. When she called in, Anna instantly put her at ease by asking her about her interests, what she enjoyed doing in her free time, and what she looked for during intimacy. Anna gently guided her through the process so, by the end of the call, Sarah felt a huge weight lift off her shoulders and even managed to slip in a cheeky comment or two.
Talking on the phone is often better than email for several reasons. Firstly, it allows for a more personal connection. Hearing a friendly, understanding voice can be incredibly comforting, especially when you’re discussing something as personal as your intimate needs. Secondly, it keeps your information offline and confidential. But if you’re more comfortable with email, that’s totally fine too.
We understand that reaching out is a big step. That’s why we’ve designed our initial contact process to be as comforting and straightforward as possible, ensuring that every woman feels valued and respected from the very first conversation.
Creating a Safe Haven
The first step in booking a male escort is all about building a safe space where you feel comfortable to explore your sensuality with complete privacy and confidentiality. Anna makes you feel at ease right away, ensuring that everything discussed stays strictly confidential.
She might ask about your favourite activities or what makes you feel most relaxed so she can find the perfect companion and tailor the experience to your needs. This approach helps build a sense of openness, trust, and security. We all know that when we feel safe to share our true selves, deeper and more authentic connections can be formed – thanks, Brené Brown, for all your fantastic work on vulnerability.
Anna’s approach is not just about understanding your preferences but about making you feel comfortable, heard, and valued. This way, you can fully enjoy and engage in the experience, knowing you are in safe hands.
Staying Safe
Your safety and privacy are our top priorities. Our gentlemen go through a rigorous selection process, including thorough interviews, police checks, regular health screenings, verification of all credentials and even simulated bookings. We operate on principles of mutual respect and consent, creating a safe environment where you can fully enjoy your time without any concerns.
Old School, Forever Cool
We take data security seriously. Nothing like the Ashley Madison case could happen to us because we don’t keep online records of our clients. All personal details are stored in paper files locked securely in cabinets, avoiding any potential data breaches. Additionally, we’ve had cybersecurity experts set up our systems to ensure all angles are covered.
2. Finding Mr. Right
What Makes You Tick
During the initial chat, Anna helps you figure out what type of gentleman and experience you’re looking for. She’ll ask about your preferences in music, travel, favourite holiday spots, interests like theatre or live shows, and about your intimate desires. This helps her get a clear picture of your ideal date.
Anna keeps a detailed board with each companion’s profile. And, often has a knack for knowing which one will be the right fit based on your personality and preferences. While looks can be a factor, she guides you to consider other aspects that might lead to a healthier, more fulfilling experience.
Looks Aren’t Everything
Whilst the agency offers a diverse range of gentlemen – each with unique life experiences and specialties – Anna points out that what clients think they want isn’t always what they need. Deeper connections often come from shared interests and emotional compatibility rather than just physical attraction. So, by focusing on what makes you feel valued and understood, we ensure that your experience is not only enjoyable but also becomes a journey of self-discovery and emotional fulfilment.
For instance, let’s say you’ve always been drawn to tall, dark, and athletic types. Anna might gently suggest considering someone who, while maybe not fitting that exact physical mould, shares your passion for theatre and can engage you in deep, meaningful conversations. With Anna’s guidance, you can break past patterns and try something completely unexpected. This approach not only could help you break the cycle of past unhealthy relationships but also opens new doors for you to relate to others – and yourself – in a healthier and more rewarding way.
Why You Won’t See Faces on Our Website
At Her Confidant, we prioritise privacy and discretion. Our gentlemen’s faces are not shown as they often work in professional industries and value their privacy – just like you. We receive over 50 applications monthly, but only the best work with us. Our rigorous selection process ensures top-notch standards. So, you can be assured your companion is part of an elite, handpicked selection of distinguished and gifted men.
When you contact us, we’ll find the perfect match for your needs, ensuring you receive the best possible experience. But, if you still find you’d like to see your companion before committing to a longer booking, we also offer a 20-minute Meet & Greet date to make sure the right chemistry is there.
3. Choosing Your Experience
We offer a range of packages to suit different needs and desires. But if none of these quite hit the mark, we can always come up with a bespoke experience just for you.
Here’s a closer look at what we offer:
Your Plus One
We’ve all been there — an upcoming event where you know going solo is going to be uncomfortable, or even raise questions you don’t want to answer. Maybe it’s that annual work party where everyone seems to bring a plus one, or a theatre night you’ve been looking forward to but dread attending alone. The idea of showing by yourself can tick your anxiety. Our companions are there to add that extra touch of charm and make you feel like a star.
Hugs & Cuddles
Sometimes, all you need is a warm hug and some comforting cuddles without further intimacy. This package is perfect for those seeking emotional support and physical closeness. Physical touch can help your brain release serotonin and reduce cortisol levels, effectively helping you relax and decompress. It’s about feeling heard, non-judged, and supported by someone who genuinely cares about making you feel better.
Hugs & Cuddles are especially great for women who haven’t had intimacy for a long time or who face challenges with it, as it can gently ease them into being open to future experiences.
And hey, if you start with a non-intimacy package but later change your mind and feel like going down that road, just send Anna a cheeky text. She’ll sort it out for you in no time!
Tantric Massages
Let us give you a heads up: this experience is highly addictive.
This package offers a deeply relaxing and sensual journey. It’s all about awakening your senses through a full-body massage, including an indulgent Yoni massage, without further intimacy. Perfect for unwinding and connecting with your sensuality in a safe and caring environment where it’s all absolutely about you. Ideal for those who want to enjoy some ‘me time’ without the need to even think about pleasing a partner or worrying about satisfying anyone else.
A tantric and Yoni massage starts with gentle, soothing strokes to relax your body and calm your mind. As the massage progresses, the touch becomes more deliberate and sensual, awakening your senses and creating a deep sense of arousal. This journey through touch helps release pent-up emotions, working through trauma or intimacy issues, and reconnecting you with your true sexual energy. It’s a way to experience intimate touch like never before.
Massages can reduce anxiety and boost feelings of well-being by releasing oxytocin and endorphins, the body’s natural “feel-good” hormones. Plus, they lower cortisol levels, cutting down stress and promoting relaxation. Awakening this energy can be a game-changer for your everyday life, giving you an energised and vibrant outlook.
Every experience is valid, and orgasms don’t always happen — it’s all about how you respond to the touch, both physically and emotionally. The focus is on your pleasure and relaxation, making you feel cared for.
Whether you’re looking to break through emotional barriers or simply enjoy a deeper level of relaxation and touch, our Tantric Massage is designed to leave you feeling refreshed and revitalised.
The Boyfriend Experience
If you are after real intimacy and connection, this package has got you covered. From cozy dinners, fun events and deep chats to quality intimate moments together, it’s about enjoying meaningful companionship without any strings attached.
Life can sometimes throw curveballs like a tough breakup or a rough divorce which can leave you in need of a boost of self-esteem. The Boyfriend Experience gives you that space to feel supported and valued, helping you get back on track emotionally and set you up for success in other areas of your life.
The Sleepover
Ideal for those who love taking things slow and enjoy waking up next to the perfect companion. Spend an entire night with your gentleman, starting with an indulgent, intimate dinner date and winding down with a movie or a good chat. Wake up to a lovely brekkie in bed and maybe even a cheeky morning session before starting your day. We promise you’ll be grinning like a teenager.
The Weekend Getaway
This package offers a mini-break with your companion, whether it’s a relaxing retreat, an adventure-filled weekend, or a staycation at your favourite hotel or home. Perfect for those looking to escape the hustle and bustle of everyday life.
Travelling solo is fantastic, but sometimes you crave an indulgent weekend of pleasure and intimacy with a guy who will go above and beyond to make you feel amazing.
And let us tell you: if a 1-hour massage leaves you feeling relaxed, an entire weekend dedicated to your pleasure and relaxation will get you floating on cloud nine.
The Ultimate Pleasure Week
The ultimate indulgence for your body, mind, and spirit. Spend breathtaking days and nights enjoying sensual moments and deep connection.
Sometimes, you just need extra time to work on your intimacy and form a deeper bond with your companion before moving forward. This package is perfect for those who want to spend a full week with their chosen gentleman, indulging in slow, present moments. You get to have fun together and just be the star of the show for the entire time. Be it exploring new places, dining at exquisite restaurants, or simply enjoying each other’s company in a more relaxed setting, this package ensures you have all the time you need to build a meaningful connection and experience unparalleled pleasure.
Couples Booking
A lot of couples are curious about adding a third person to the sheets but feel anxious about who to choose and how to make it work.
A professional companion knows all about clear communication, boundaries, and respect, making sure the experience is all about you two. They’ll integrate into your fun but usually only get intimate with the woman.
If you’re after something more fluid, just let Anna know, and she’ll find the perfect match for your needs. This way, everyone feels comfortable, respected, and ready to explore their intimacy and desires in a safe, judgment-free space.
4. Locking It In: How to Book Your Date
Once you’ve chosen your perfect companion and experience, the next step is to lock in the date and time. It’s best to book at least 48 hours in advance to ensure your preferred gentleman is available and to avoid any disappointment.
All our companions are booked in advance, so planning ahead is key.
Paying Upfront
Full payment is required upfront to secure your booking. While it might feel a bit transactional, it’s actually a great way to ensure everything runs smoothly. Think of it like booking a concert ticket — you pay ahead to secure your spot, then sit back and enjoy the show. Anna’s team handles all the logistics, so you can focus on anticipating your wonderful date.
You’ve got plenty of payment options for convenience: PayPal, Stripe, PayID, direct deposits into our bank account either online or in person at your local branch, or cash if you prefer. We don’t accept personal cheques or credit cards right now, but we’re here to make the process as seamless as possible.
What’s Included in the Rate
When you book a package, you’re paying for the quality time spent with your companion, tailored to the specific experience you’ve chosen. All extra costs, like event tickets, dinners, travel expenses (including flights to bring a companion interstate or internationally and back), hotels, and any other add-ons, are at your discretion.
We’re here to assist with the planning, provide recommendations, and suggest ideas to make your booking extra special. Just keep in mind, those additional costs will be covered by you. Think of us as your personal planning assistants, ensuring everything is set up perfectly so you can relax and fully enjoy your time together.
5. Getting Ready: Pre-Date Nerves
Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone
Feeling those pre-date jitters? You’re not alone. Many women experience anxiety when stepping out of their comfort zones and diving into unknown experiences, especially when it involves meeting a male companion for the first time. Meeting someone new can trigger anxiety, heightening our sense of vulnerability. So, it’s perfectly natural to feel uncertain about what to expect or how to act.
Handling the Nerves
Anna has helped over 1,000 women navigate this process, and she’ll be there to support you every step of the way. She’ll check in with you the morning before the booking to confirm everything and to see how you’re feeling. Her calm, nurturing nature and reassuring voice will help ease your nerves, turning your anxiety into excitement.
This whole experience is about letting go and allowing yourself to experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection in a way you never knew possible. It’s about stepping out of your comfort zone and embracing the unexpected, opening yourself up to new and exciting sensations.
6. The Big Day: What to Expect During Your Date with an Escort
The First Encounter
When it’s time for your first meeting, we aim to make things as smooth and secure as possible. We usually ask clients how they’re dressed so the companion can find them easily. This small detail helps break the ice and reduces any potential initial awkwardness.
If anything unexpected comes up, like traffic delays, we ask both clients and companions to text Anna. This keeps everyone in the loop and ensures any changes are communicated promptly. Once you’ve both reached the location and found each other, a quick text to Anna confirms that the booking has started. This step not only helps the meeting go off without a hitch but also adds an extra layer of security for both parties.
Your Experience, Your Way
The booking is all about you and the experience you chose. Your companion will gently and respectfully lead the way, always ensuring you feel comfortable and consenting to each step.
Your night might kick off with a lovely dinner, full of engaging conversation and laughter. As the evening progresses, it might naturally flow into a more relaxed and private setting, preparing the stage for a memorable intimate time together.
Remember, you’re in control the entire time. If at any point you feel like not continuing with the date, you’re absolutely free to do so. The goal is to create a memorable experience that leaves you feeling revitalised and empowered. You’re in the driver’s seat, and your companion is there to support and enhance your journey, whatever that might be.
Feeling at Ease
It’s normal to feel a mix of excitement and nerves. Rest assured, your companion is an expert at creating a comfortable and engaging atmosphere. Throughout your time together, he will pay close attention to your cues, adapting to your needs and desires, ensuring that every moment is about your pleasure and satisfaction.
Their role goes beyond being experts in the sensual arts; they are supportive and reassuring, helping you relax and feel confident. This is why we often recommend longer bookings, allowing you ample time to get to know your man, feel comfortable, and fully enjoy the experience.
Extending the Fun
It’s quite common for women to find themselves enjoying the experience more than they initially expected. You might need extra time to reach that comfortable place to explore your intimacy further, or perhaps your session got so steamy that you don’t want it to end. Many clients discover that once they’re in the moment, they want to savour it for a little longer, just like a good piece of chocolate.
So, if you feel like extending your booking, it’s as simple as sending a quick message to Anna during your date. She’ll handle all the details and the extra payment in no time, allowing you to continue enjoying your night without any interruptions.
6. Sharing the Love
After your appointment, we’re keen to hear all about it. Both you and your companion will be asked to share your thoughts. No pressure though — you only share what you’re comfortable with. This helps us tailor future experiences and keep our selection process spot on.
So, after your booking, Anna will check in to see how everything went. We often find that the saucy details just come naturally because women are so happy and satisfied with the whole experience, they can’t stop raving about it!
We take every piece of feedback seriously and make sure every single client feels valued and heard. So don’t hold back: whether it’s a glowing review or some constructive criticism, we encourage you to spill the beans and help us make your next experience even better!
Now that you know the ins and outs about booking a male escort, let’s chat and organise your perfect date!
xx Anna
Discover the secret to your sensual truth with Her Confidant – Australia’s premier male escort agency for women, by a woman.
From a handsome plus-one to a bespoke sensual adventure, we’re at your intimate service. If you have any further questions, you can always read through our FAQ or get in touch for a confidential chat about your needs on 0449 918 907.