A woman who consciously chooses her pleasure is a woman who is no longer negotiating for crumbs.
We have normalised women spending money on handbags, holidays, skincare, education. But when a woman chooses to invest in intimacy, the discomfort surfaces.
Female desire has historically been managed, monitored, or moralised. A woman wanting pleasure on her own terms disrupts a very old narrative that intimacy must be earned through commitment, sacrifice, or service.
Men have accessed intimacy without it defining their character. When women do the same, it becomes a cultural conversation.
The controversy is not about the act. It is about autonomy. And autonomy in women still unsettles certain people. It’s time for women to put their desires first without judgement or shame. And by establishing Her Confidant, an elevated companionship service for women, I believe we’re one step closer to removing the stigma.