TL;DR A boyfriend experience is a booking with a male escort or companion that feels like time with an attentive partner rather than a transaction: a real date, conversation, affection and, if you both want it, intimacy, with his attention entirely on you. It is the male version of the escort industry’s “girlfriend experience”. In Australia, a three-hour boyfriend experience through Her Confidant costs $1,950.
Most women who ask me about a boyfriend experience are not looking for a fantasy. They want an evening where someone listens, notices them and wants to be there. This guide explains what the term means, what a boyfriend experience with a male escort includes, how it differs from renting a boyfriend, who books it and what it costs in Australia.
A boyfriend experience, often shortened to BFE, is a paid booking with a male companion that recreates the best parts of being with a partner. You go on a date. He is curious about you. There is affection: a hand held across the table, a kiss when the moment is right. If you both want it, the evening moves into intimacy. Then it ends, and nobody owes anybody anything.
Researchers who studied how male escorts build the boyfriend experience found it rests on three things: companionship, authenticity and passion, across both the social and the physical part of a booking. In plain terms, it has to be real while it lasts.
The phrase grew out of the “girlfriend experience”, or GFE, an escort-industry term for a booking that is more like a date with a partner than a transaction. When the companion is a man and the client is a woman, the same idea became the boyfriend experience.
For years the BFE was a footnote. A 2017 Queensland University of Technology survey of male escort profiles worldwide found that only about one in ten advertised to women and couples. That is changing. The 2022 film Good Luck to You, Leo Grande, in which Emma Thompson plays a widow who books a young sex worker, put the idea in front of a mainstream audience, and Mamamia reported in 2025 that the boyfriend experience is a growing service across Australia, with women booking for affection, attention and touch as much as for sex.
Every agency and companion defines it a little differently. A good boyfriend experience usually includes:
What it does not include: a relationship, exclusivity or a promise of anything after the booking ends. That boundary is part of the appeal. You get the closeness without the admin of a relationship.
These terms get mixed up. They describe quite different things.
| Boyfriend experience | Rent a boyfriend | Gigolo | Dating app | |
| What it is | A booked date with a professional male escort or companion, with affection and intimacy if wanted | A platonic plus-one for a wedding, event or trip | A man supported by a woman in an ongoing arrangement | A search for a partner |
| Intimacy | Yes, if you both want it | No, strictly platonic | Usually | Unknown until you meet |
| Vetting | Through a reputable agency: interviews, police and health checks | ID check | None | None |
| Time | Hours, overnight or a weekend | Usually a full day | Open-ended | Open-ended |
| What you pay for | His time and attention | His presence at an event | His upkeep | Your time, and often your patience |
If you want to rent a boyfriend for a wedding with no physical contact, a rent-a-boyfriend service is what you are after. If you want to be taken out, paid attention to and, if you choose, touched, that is a boyfriend experience. Our guide to what a gigolo is covers that older word.
Not who most people picture. At Her Confidant, the typical woman who books is about 50, and seven in ten are 45 or older. More than three in four are single, divorced, separated or widowed. Just over half come for reconnection: with themselves, with their bodies, with a part of life that went quiet.
The reasons women give are remarkably consistent:
Research backs this up. The only Australian study of women who pay for sex, by Dr Hilary Caldwell at UNSW, found that about half had therapeutic reasons, and that they valued a professional who would respect their boundaries and consent. Anna talked about why so many women are leaving dating apps for a vetted companion on Mamamia’s No Filter podcast with Mia Freedman, alongside one of our clients.
Women rarely book on impulse. Most think about it for weeks or months first, and in 2026 more than half of our bookings are repeat bookings.
“Women don’t book a boyfriend experience because something is wrong with them. They book because they have spent years paying attention to everyone else, and they want one evening where somebody pays attention to them.”
Anna Grosman, Founder, Her Confidant
Here is how a typical evening runs with Her Confidant. The Her Confidant Experience is the closest thing we offer to a classic boyfriend experience, and it is the one most women book first.
For women who want more time, The Sleepover adds dinner, a night together and waking up next to someone, and The Weekender is the boyfriend experience at its fullest: a whole weekend with no clock to race.
Very few agencies publish their prices. These are ours, and they include your Companion’s time, Anna’s oversight and travel within 15 km of the CBD.
| Experience | Time | Price |
| Her Confidant Experience | 3 hours: 1 hour date, 2 hours intimacy | $1,950 |
| Her Confidant + | 4 hours: 1 hour date, 3 hours intimacy | $2,500 |
| The Sleepover | 14 hours, 7pm to 9am | $5,500 |
| The Weekender | 38 hours, Friday 7pm to Sunday 9am | $10,000 |
Accommodation and dining are arranged and paid for by you. If intimacy is too much for now, The Prelude is two hours of companionship with no expectation of anything more, although in our experience most women are glad they began with the Her Confidant Experience. Our full guide to what a male escort costs in Australia covers every experience and extra.
Social companionship, such as dinners, events and travel, is lawful everywhere in Australia. Whether intimacy can be part of a booking depends on your state. New South Wales, Victoria, Queensland and the Northern Territory have decriminalised sex work. Western Australia, South Australia, Tasmania and the ACT each have their own laws, and Anna will talk you through what is possible in your city before anything is arranged. Our state-by-state guide to male escort laws has the detail.
The boyfriend experience depends on trust, so the agency you choose matters more than anything else.
Our guide on how to stay safe when booking a male escort covers the red flags in detail.
The chemistry is what makes a boyfriend experience work, so take your time. Browse the Companions and notice who you are drawn to: the confident one, the gentle one, the one who makes you laugh. Anna will help you choose.
Our Companions are based in Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, the Gold Coast and Perth, and travel to Adelaide, Canberra, Hobart and other cities.
“The best boyfriend experience is the one where you stop watching the clock. You forget it was booked. You just remember how it was to be wanted.”
Anna Grosman, Founder, Her Confidant
If you are curious, start with a conversation. Send Anna a confidential enquiry and ask anything at all. There is no obligation to book, and if it is your first time, our guide to booking a male escort for the first time walks you through every step.
BFE stands for boyfriend experience: a booking with a male escort or companion that is like time with an attentive partner, with a date, affection and, if both people want it, intimacy. It is the male version of GFE, the girlfriend experience.
The idea is the same: a booking that is personal rather than transactional. The difference is who provides it. A girlfriend experience is provided by a woman, usually to a man; a boyfriend experience is provided by a man, usually to a woman or a couple.
It can. Most boyfriend experiences include intimacy, and many include sex, but only if both of you want it and only in states where the law allows it. Nothing is assumed. You agree your boundaries beforehand and can change your mind at any time.
Yes. The Prelude is two hours of companionship with no expectation of intimacy. Many women find the Her Confidant Experience the better choice, because it begins with a date and nothing moves further unless you want it to.
No. Rent-a-boyfriend services offer a platonic plus-one for a wedding or event, with no physical contact. A boyfriend experience includes affection and, if you want it, intimacy.
It can happen, and it is completely normal. A booking can be a vulnerable space, and feeling close to someone who listens and cares for you is a natural response. A boyfriend experience is a professional service, and we make that clear from the very first conversation. Anna checks in before and after every booking to see how you are going. If she sees feelings starting to build, she will talk it through with you and may suggest seeing a different Companion. In some cases we may decline further bookings, because your wellbeing comes first.
Yes. More than half of Her Confidant’s 2026 bookings are repeat bookings, and many women return to the same Companion.
Three hours is the minimum for it to be a real date: an hour together before anything physical. Four hours, an overnight Sleepover or a Weekender give it room to breathe.
Yes. Because it starts with a date and conversation, it is the gentlest way in. Most first-time Her Confidant clients book the Her Confidant Experience.
At Her Confidant, $1,950 for three hours, $2,500 for four, $5,500 for an overnight Sleepover and $10,000 for a full weekend. Accommodation and dining are extra.
